this is what we should keep in mind.

• GIRLS:
  It’s okay for your boyfriends to think other girls are beautiful. I mean, there ARE lotsa pretty girls out there in the world, you can’t change that. Just because your boy says to her “Oh you have pretty eyes” or “You’re beautiful” DOESN’T mean he’s tryna hit on her. He’s just tryna be nice, because isn’t it nice when he says that kinda stuff to you?
  
  GUYS:
  There’s a fine line though. DON’T turn it into flirting. We’re cool with it when you say that kind of stuff to other girls, but continuously saying to various girls isn’t the business. Remember that you have a girlfriend who would love to hear that stuff too, and it wouldn’t be that special to her if you said it to her right after you told some other girl that, too. Yeah, your girlfriend will occasionally pull the “OMG Taylor Lautner is HELLLLLA fine” but honestly: Do we have a chance with him? Nope. So don’t worry about it.
  
  
• GIRLS: It’s okay for your boyfriend to have friends that are girls. Just because he’s texting some girl or whatever doesn’t mean he’s doing anything behind your back. I mean, what’s a relationship without trust? You should have built up that trust for each other that you know he won’t be flirting around. Yeah, it’s okay to maybe be a bit insecure if he texts some other girl more than he texts you, but other than that, you have to know that YOU’RE his. Another girl he talks to, isn’t.
  
  GUYS: It’s okay for your girlfriend to have friends that are guys. Basically what I told the ladies: Just because we’re talking to some other guy via text doesn’t mean we’re doing anything behind your back. Trust us. You have no idea how committed we are to you. And just because we kick it with our guy friends doesn’t mean we wanna spend every waking moment with them. Truth is, you’re the one that’s on our mind.
  
  
• GIRLS: Give him a reason to trust you. Show him that you’re committed and wouldn’t do anything to hurt him.
  
  GUYS: Give her a reason to trust you. Prove to her that you’re different than the other guys in the past.
  
  
• BOTH:
  
  Don’t lie. Don’t say, “Oh I’m busy, can’t talk” but then we see you on AIM talking to some other person or commenting someone on Facebook. Be straight up.
  
  Listen to us when we pour our heart out. We’re being honest. Take the time to appreciate what we have to say and not think of it as coming off cheesy. Those things are coming straight from the heart.
  
  Love us unconditionally. We all have our faults, we all make mistakes. Learn to forgive us when we mess up. Understand that we’re trying. I mean, we wouldn’t be here if we weren’t trying, right?